Quotes

I am curtailing my computer time while I pump 7 times a day in lieu of a great read. In just the first chapter it is and is not what I thought the book was going to be about. I went in to it knowing I have areas and it's comforting that Beth talks about her survey of over 900 women and that 78% admitted to having feelings at or above a level that bothers them, 43% described their issues with this as anywhere from 'pretty big' to 'huge' Here are some things that hit home for me and this is all JUST from Chapter One of Beth Moore's new book :

"The best cover for this is perfectionism"

"Do I have a strong desire to make amends whenever I think I've done something wrong?"

"I battle an inordinate desire to make peace that always be others-or God-centered. I dread the backlash of people far more than the backlash of God at times. He's infinitely more merciful."

"Loss of favor and approval and harmony is excruciating to people with this."

"Does it hurt my feeling when I lean someone doesn't like me? Breaks my heart"

"How often do you have to ask yourself if what you're feeling is even real?"

"Do you ask yourself if you are you discerning or just suspicious? If you were supposed to do "this"or not?"

"Intensity is the key factor."

"One way to detect is by our knee-jerk reaction to any level of change in a relationship, particularly if we perceive that the focus has shifted away from us. The more easily threatened we are, the more of this we are."

"There have been times when I've put so much stock in certain relationship that a crash was unavoidable. If we let too much ride on a relationship, a blow out is inevitable. The very nature of pressure is to blow. The ramification of this reaches all the way from a pattern of disappointment to unabated abuse. "

"In your pursuit of God-vested security, the only relationship in your life that will suffer rather than improve are the significantly unhealthy ones. "


Definition:
"Refers to a profound sense of self doubt- a deep feeling of uncertainty about our basic worth and our place in the world. It's associated with chronic (condition that has last 3 or more months) self-consciousness, along with a chronic lack of confidence in ourselves and anxiety about our relationships. The person lives in constant fear of rejection and a deep uncertainty about whether his or her own feelings and desires are legitimate.....

This person also harbors unrealistic expectations about love and relationships. These expectations, for themselves and others, are often unconscious. This person creates a situation in which being disappointed and hurt in relationships is almost inevitable. Ironically, although these people are easily and frequently hurt, they are usually unaware of how they are unwitting accomplices in creating their own misery."

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